If you just happen to be naturally charming then no there's nothing wrong with that. God made you who you are for His purposes and if He wants you charming then more power to you! The problem comes when we use charm to be the center of attention or to manipulate and use people...then it's definitely not ok. I never used to think of myself as a manipulative person until I started checking the motives behind what I do and say and then CRIPES was I shocked at myself! I discovered I would phrase things a certain way to get the response I wanted from people or I would turn on the charm to get something out of them. This is why Proverbs 31:30 says:
"Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised."
That fear or reverence of God is what keeps us in check if we happen to be charming or beautiful. It's a constant reminder that He knows every motive behind my every move or word. So be charming but do it for the right reasons, and as soon as you notice you're playing people... knock it off. The goal is not that everyone loves you and thinks you're great but that they think Jesus is great because of how you live.
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If you are being made fun of they just say it because they either think you're gorgeous or... they are jealous. Trust me the other day I got told that I sleep naked with my brother and I thought " he just told me that because he thinks I'm gorgeous."Also God made you the way you are, no need to worry.
Sincerly,
Alexis
P.S : GOD BLESS!!!!!!!
Posted by Alexis | January 14, 2010 5:09 PM
Okay well this is a really late comment, but if you want to know a little bit more about where that verse came from, Proverbs 31:30, I suggest reading most of that chapter, like from verse ten and on. It is describing what a noble wife/woman is, and then it gives that verse. I thought the passage was really interesting, and you could maybe check yourself and see if you think your so called "charm" is more like what the noble woman is, or something deceptive.
Hope this helps!!
Posted by Allison | May 10, 2010 7:20 PM