First I want to say it's beautiful that you are hearing God ask you to do something. A lot of us go through life so focused on what we want, with our fingers in our ears, that we never hear the voice of God. I think it's because we're stubborn and we think He's going to hurt us instead of love us.
I have found that the more I love God, the more I trust Him. And the more I trust Him, the easier it is to do what He asks, and the more joyful my life becomes. Joyful because He knows me so much better than I know myself and because He knows exactly the life He has planned for me. Which can only be good because He is so very good!
So I think your first step in letting something or someone go is prayer. I know that sounds like a church answer, but prayer is just time with God - talking and listening - and in all our relationships we go from being strangers with people to loving them by spending time with them - talking and listening. Ask for the strength to do what He's asking of you - He wouldn't ask you if He wasn't willing to help you do it.
Next, start believing everything He says about Himself and about you. He says that He loves you faithfully, honestly, wonderfully, generously, beautifully and there's nothing that can shake that. In Revelation 19:11 Jesus is described as a rider on a white horse who comes for His people and His name is Faithful and True. I LOVE that picture of Him. In the Bible He talks about you so sweetly as His Child, His Bride, and in Isaiah 43:4 (43 is one of my alltime favorite chapters in the Bible) He says that you are precious in His sight, honored and that He loves you.
So if He is good, (which He can't be anything other than good), and He loves you faithfully and says you are precious to Him, then whatever He asks of you can be trusted. Ask Him for help to obey, believe that He loves you and wants the best for you and move in the direction He has asked you to move.
Remember Jeremiah 29:11-13:"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart."
Comments (8)
I love this question becouse i've it over and over in my church, people are just not willing to let go of a relationship. I've heard that they would just die if they had to let go of that relationship and God won't put us through anything that we can handle with Him. I believe in the power of prayer so if you think God is asking you to let go of a relationship, pray and ask Him for a clear message. And be sure to think him for the leasons you learned in that relationship. My advice would to also pray for His help when it comes to confronting that person God has asked you to give up.
~Kellie~
Posted by Kellie | September 9, 2008 5:08 PM
Wow- this was pretty difficult for me to read, the reason being after much prayer my boyfriend of a year decided he needed to break up with me. we had both felt God calling us to one day marry and I had fallen head over heels in love with him. we had an ideal Christian relationship- we were always praying together and encouraging eachother and our realationship was very physically pure. I had suddenly realized that he really was holding my heart- instead of God so I began to pray more intensly about the direction of the relationship. He suddenly ended things and I was devastated- but I knew it must be God's plan. Its taken me over a year to move past that, I could never imagine going through that kind of heartbreak again. But God is faithful and I know His plans are better than my own.
Posted by Caroline | October 20, 2008 3:41 PM
Tonight in my youth group, we talked about being "salty". It actually does say that Christians should be salty in their relationships with Christ in the Bible. We are meant to spread the word and add flavor to the world by being different and being Christians. We are also supposed to show that we are salty. If you get too caught up in other things, you begin to lose your salt or flavor. If you start to focus more on the guy youre dating than God, you will lose your salt. But, if the guy is helping you become closer to God or making you saltier, then by all means, God is saying "Hey! This is the right guy for you!"
The way you know if you are losing flavor is if you dont pray or you dont read your Bible on a daily basis like you once did. If God was your BFF, and the guy slowly starts to take His place, then youre losing your salt and you need to get out of the relationship with the guy... Hope this helped!
Posted by sammi | November 19, 2008 8:12 PM
That is so true, people these days are very determined to do what they want, its good to know that God has His own plans for you.
Posted by Lindsey | December 17, 2008 2:34 PM
I just want to say thanks for this article because I really had no idea how to pray to get over my heart brake and this really helped :) so Thank you and I believe so much in God I know he can help so anyone else reading this really just has to believe and I promise it will get better because God loves you and is there to listen to you :)
Posted by Just Me | August 15, 2009 9:57 PM
All I can say is you young generation you are on the right track, what an awesome generation and god loving children he has within all of you. God must be smiling seeing this committment that we the older generation lost site of.
God Bless and keep you growing,
Brenda
Posted by Brenda | December 27, 2009 9:09 AM
this exact thing happened to me!! i was in a relationship that i was not supposed to be in, and we were doing things that we shouldn't have been doing. anyway, i went on a mission trip about a year into our relationship, and God told me to break up with him. i was really scared, but i did it!! what made it easier was the fact that he had apparently gotten tired of me and wanted to break up with me too, so it was mutual. but now we're still best friends, and it's easier that way. and i've learned to trust god so much more through this experience!!
God bless you all!!:)
Posted by elizaclaire | June 8, 2010 9:12 PM
I use to be adicted to pornography, and I'm kind of having trouble with leting my guilt go. I think God might want me to talk about this with someone, I've almost done that, I emailed her, but when she was talked to me in person, I kind of froze up. I am not the type of person who is really open with these things, and I want to get rid of this isue, but I am so sacred to talk to her, what do you think I should do?
Posted by Star | July 4, 2010 10:25 PM