I know there are many who can relate. It’s hard to be in a group of friends and feel left out or even to be all alone with no one to turn to. If we let it, loneliness can take on our entire sense of who we are and lead to a state of depression. But there is hope. In the midst of our loneliness, we can look to God. My prayer is that you will look to God in the midst of your loneliness and realize that you are never alone.
Wayne Watson sings a song called “Friend of A Wounded Heart.” The song begins, “Smile, make them think you’re happy. Lie and say that things are fine. Hide that empty longing that you feel. Keep your heart concealed.” This song spoke to me during the lonely times in my life because I felt that it really said what I was feeling. The great part about the song is that it goes on to say, “Jesus. He meets you where you are. Jesus, He heals your secret scars. All the love you’re longing for is Jesus, the friend of a wounded heart.”
Pray to God and tell Him what you are feeling. In the Psalms you will find that when David was down in the dumps he cried out to God to help him. Psalm 5:1-2 says, “Give ear to my words, O Lord, consider my sighing. Listen to my cry for help, my King and my God, for to you I pray.” Psalms is a really great book of the Bible to read when you are going through a hard time. Try to read a Psalm a day and write down in a journal what the Psalm is talking about and how that particular Psalm speaks to you.
Sometimes in order to get close to people it is important to open up to them and let them know that you are having a hard time. Is there a friend or a mentor you trust that you can talk to? Just share with them what you feel and ask them to pray with you. If you do not know anyone, ask your youth minister or pastor if they would be willing to meet and pray with you. And take a look around, I bet there are others around you too who might feel the same.
Please do not give up hope. God is a God of comfort and a God of love. He cares for you; tell Him what you’re feeling and rest in His strength and grace.
Comments (8)
I know the feeling! I once felt the same way. Alone and loosing my faith. How did I over come the feeling?
I wasn't alone physically, but I felt alone. I was tired of feeling this way. I fell to my knees hugging my bible. I cried! Then I cried out for God. I asked the Lord to deliver me from these feelings and thoughts. I knew deep down inside the lord is with you always.
God IS with you always. You may not see him. When you need him the most you can feel him in your heart. He is the God of Love. It is the enemy making us feel the way we do. GOD only wants the best for his children. Trust in him. Lift up all your troubles. God will set you free.
I'm not the one to quote a verse from the bible. When I felt those feelings of lonliness and in the dark. I found a quiet place, I would talk to God. He is the God of love. He wants the best for you. I find it easy to talk to him as if he were sitting next to me. Then I would open my bible and read from the first place my eyes fell. I would keep reading until I got the message.
This is something to try. It saved me along with asking others to pray for me and asking the lord for forgiveness. He is our maker.
I thank you lord for this day. I thank you lord for the blessings in my life. I thank you lord for the way you created me. God give me strength to overcome today's obstacles. God I ask this in your holy and precious name amen!
Posted by Chynthia | May 13, 2008 7:13 PM
I understand this feeling, too. I'm still working through it.
I go to a really big church. On a normal Wednesday night, we have about 400 to 500 middle-schoolers, and about 700 high-schoolers. The last time I went, I just had this horrible feeling of being completely and utterly alone in the midst of hundreds of people.
When I went home that night, I started crying. I was on my knees, sobbing, because I was so lonely. And then I cried out to God. I told him that my heart was broken, and that I felt so lonely, that even though he had put friends in my life, I didn't feel like they cared or understood. I was on my knees for a while. And just when I finished telling Him that I needed a friend, I heard this voice. No audibly, but inside of me. And God said, "I Am."
That was it. That was all he said, but it was so true. I fell to my knees again, but this time, I praised Him.
The only advice that I can give you, is that when you feel lonely, like no one is there, take up your cross. Sometimes, I just need someone to talk to, and when no one else is there, I talk to God. Kind of like Chynthia, I'll just pray, Lord, tell me what I need to know, and open my Bible, and wherever it falls open, I start reading, and read until I hear Him say, "Okay, stop now." Sometimes it takes me a few days to understand why I needed to read that scripture, but it always pays out in the end.
I hope this helps!
In His Grip,
~Hope~
Posted by Ashleigh | May 19, 2008 4:03 PM
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Posted by Lynette | May 24, 2008 9:29 PM
This is exactly how I feel. Even though it makes me sad I know Jesus is always there for me and that makes me feel alot better. No matter what happens stay close to Jesus. :)
Posted by Brenna | October 4, 2008 11:56 AM
Ever since I become alot closer to God a month ago i've had alot of trouble even having friends that are close. But I know that God will take care of me through any hard times.
Posted by Jennifer | January 24, 2009 3:57 PM
thats exactly how i feel right now!! ive grown up with tons of strong christian friends that i could go to with anything. i mean, we would have a short devotion and prayed time before church on sunday nights and just talk to God about our problems and everything. but my dad took a job at a new church and i dont feel like i connect with everyone in the youth group there. they all go to public school(while ive never been to public school, ive just always gone to a christian school) anyway, im not saying that theyre bad people and that im better than tehm or anything like that, but i feel like i cant just go up to one of them and ask them to pray for something goin on in my life. also, i started homeschooling this year, which means some of my friends that i could go to, i never get to see them anymore except for like every 3-5 months. i feel kind of alone. im tryin to get to know the new people but at the same time i have to be careful because some of them cuss, drink, and have gone all teh way. so please pray for me to be friends with the new people and for me to be able to relate to them. i need a friend!! =] lol anyway, some of them do need Jesus in their lives and we're going to a youth conference this summer...so pray for some of them to find Christ and for others to get right with Him. also, pray for me to keep my heart in check with God and not to get mad at Him or my parents. thanks :)
Posted by Hannah | April 2, 2009 2:40 PM
hello. it seems like every time i tend to like someone (as in a friend) they end up being like really bad! first i find out one of my closest friends (not even from her! i had to find out from someone else!) is talking about sexual stuff, then the guy i like says a really really bad word, then this other guy i sorta like says a really really bad word then my guy friend turns out to be completely perverted, then my favorite clean youtube-ist makes a horrible video, then my favorite comic book series that i grew up on adds a gay character, then to top it all off, someone i look up to get in big trouble and fired. how do i even begin to cope? what else do i not know!?
Posted by Anonymous | May 11, 2010 5:51 PM
Lately I have been going through a terrible stage of loneliness. I have a lot of friends and I have a lot of fun with them together, but when I get home I start crying because I am so lonely! Please help!?!
Posted by Leigh | July 23, 2011 7:47 PM