I faced the same issue with my mom when I was growing up, and although it may not seem like it now, I imagine that someday you will thank her for not letting you wear the revealing clothes that are so popular. It’s hard when you feel different, but be encouraged! We are supposed to be different! “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is - his good, pleasing and perfect will.” (Rom. 12:2)
This verse reminds us that the reason we sometimes feel different from the world is because we are not of the world. God is renewing our minds to be less like the world and more like Him. The fact that you desire to be modest is great! Even women in Bible times struggled with this! For example, in 1 Timothy, the apostle Paul cautions the women, “I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God.” (1 Tim. 2:9-10)
I’m sure all the mothers back in Bible times loved this verse. Much like today, I bet the teenage girls were less than thrilled. It’s an age-old issue, but don’t make it your issue for long. Calmly talk to your mom about how you’re feeling. She’ll respect that you don’t want to stand out among your friends, but that you want to dress modestly. Maybe you can even make some compromises. For example, instead of spaghetti strap tank tops that you always have to wear something over, try sleeveless tank tops that cover more, or instead of a long pair of shorts that were made to be worn short, try a pair of board shorts instead- they’re so in right now! You may have to look a little harder, but it’s definitely possible to dress cute and be modest!
Comments (9)
I totally agree. There are some totally cute things out there, but still modest. Its hard to find sometimes, but totally worth it. Guys WILL notice you because they appreciate how you respect your body AND them. Plus you'll stand out from all those girls trying to get attention, except you'll stand out in a good way!
Posted by Mer | May 7, 2008 6:56 PM
I want to honor and glorify God in everything I do, even the clothes I put on. There are really cute clothes that are modest. It may just take looking slightly harder in the mall. And if there is something that would show too much skin, there is a fix for almost anything! =D There are leggings for skirts, shrugs to go over spaqhetti-strapped tops and you can still look very stylish and much more put-together. I do agree that it is hard to "not fit in" sometimes. I feel like I'm the only one in the pool in a tankini (that took forever to find because it is not low-cut and does not show much stomach). Everyone is in this "bikini craze" it seems like. As Christians, let's set a high standard and people will give you respect! =D God bless you all!
Posted by BallerinaGirl | May 12, 2008 7:16 PM
I really think that it is important for Christian girls to be modest. We were fearfully and wonderfully made in Christ therefore we should honor God with our bodies. Remember it is so cool to be on fire for God and to be different from this world!!!
Posted by britt | January 23, 2009 10:15 AM
I tottally agree! It's soooo true that Modest IS hottest! Were i go to church we (us girls) & the youth leader (who's a woman) have a saying, "No crack front or back" it's ketchy isn't it? i added in this part for some of the girls who ware the "booty shorts"
in our youth(not trying to suond mean when i say it.), "And no skin above the shin". i ware short shorts, too but i ware leggings under them so maybe that might help some girls out there. i love to layer my clothes so layering is a good way to be modest but to be hottest to. ;)
Posted by God'sgrl | July 9, 2009 8:30 PM
Hey guys!
My mom won't let me wear a bikini. However, the more I think about it, the less I even desire to wear one. I have a less-than-perfect body that I'm not comfortable showing off. I would feel really insecure in a bikini. Sure, to this day, it's hard being the only one at the beach in a tankini. But, I won't be caught dead in a bikini. This year, I'm buying a bathing suit like this one:
http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_EbN88jAFWrA/Shy8C6ZBOXI/AAAAAAAAAHg/RrN_qI9hM9o/s320/rash+guard.jpg
Posted by Brit2be | March 10, 2010 8:58 AM
What is your personal policy on bathing suits? I am kind of struggling with this because it is SO hard to find a bathing suit that doesn't show your midriff/cleavage. So, I guess my question is, when it comes to bathing suits, where should I draw the line?
Posted by Anonymous | March 14, 2010 5:44 PM
Hey!
I was at a summer camp and was talking to one of my guy friends and he told me he is turned off by girls who show off too much cleavage etc. He said the more modest you are the more beautiful you will be to the guys who are actually worth something. That stuck with me and I've never forgot it!! Especially coming from a guy that I trust.
Posted by Joanna | May 27, 2010 10:27 AM
I totally have to agree w/ Joanna on this one!
One of the hottest guys i know, that is really popular, and i've secretly had a crush on lol.
Well I just recently found out that he likes me bc im am the most modest girl he knows!
He was a life guard this past summer and so of course he saw PLEANTY of girls in bikinis w/ awesome bodies...
But everyday i came to the pool he would text me and thank me for coming bc he had someone nice to look at instead of skimpy girls.
bc I never wore anything that showed my stomach or that was too low cut!
And i mean everyones autamactic thought is: Ok this guy is a really strong christian and has a really strong christian family.
But actaully, he isnt really the strongest christian guy i know. But he is a good christain.
And his sisters wear VERY revealing clothes, and SKIMPY bikinis!
So getting that comment from someone like that just rocks your world!
And i think every girl should know that even the hot guys like modest girls! =)
Posted by DanceChick | October 18, 2010 12:13 PM
I agree with you all, that a guy who is worth it will admire modesty. Another thing to keep in mind is that it is definitely important not to wear swim suits that are too low cut, etc, but also I personally think we should be careful about wearing regular swimsuit bottoms. If you think about it, it's basically the same as underwear, and you would never let guys see you walking around in your underwear. Guys like curves everywhere...that includes your butt. So you have to hide it too.
Posted by Ashley | November 22, 2011 10:19 AM