Clicks. They are the ever-so present “cool group of friends” playing out their role in what we call girl politics. You run into them at school, at the gym, in cheerleading or soccer and yes, even at church. So how do you deal?
Get excited because God has so much more for you than just becoming part of a click! God knows that you want and need Christian friends, and He will meet all of your needs (Philippians 4:19), but He wants you to know HIM as the Giver. He may be using this time to draw you closer to Him.
God’s purpose is that you would desire His glory above all things. He wants your heart to speak Isaiah 26:8, which says “Yes Lord, walking in the way of your laws, we wait for you; your name and renown are the desire of our hearts.” It is natural to desire to fit in or be liked, but as promising as those friendships look, you will only be satisfied when your heart wants His fame above all. And He wants to use you. If you are feeling left out, there are probably other people who are feeling left out, too. Maybe God wants to use you to encourage others in their loneliness. You see, the positive part about not being in the click is that you go from needing attention to a position where you can give others the attention that they are craving.
Remember also that people in clicks are sometimes finding their security in their friends. Security and contentment should only be found in the Lord – the one true source of everything we need and desire. Pray for them. Ask God how He wants to use you to make Him known to other people at church, the people in and out of the click.
Ultimately, there is NOTHING better than a close and personal relationship with Jesus Christ. Let this time be one to depend on Him and get to know Him better because that is so sweet! Ask Him to show you how to delight in Him. He wants you to seek pleasure in Him. And He will give you the desire of your heart. I know it’s hard, but wait on His perfect timing, and He will bless you with better friendships than you can ask for.
Comments (3)
There is this big battle at my school to be with these certain girls. these girls are actually my friends. Their never trying to be "popular" it's just that people really admire our tight bond together.Girls are always trying to "kick me out of the group" but my friends always say that i'm never not going to be their friends. We are all christians trying to have a good friendship. I'm just tired of Having to deal With all these girls That Dis-like me. HELP!
Posted by Faith | January 7, 2008 6:57 PM
There are two big clicks in my grade, but no one wants to let you in. There are some girls who aren't a click, just good friends, I hang out with them. I want some really close friands, so I befriend those without any, all the friends I make like that are really nice.
Posted by Maddie | July 4, 2010 10:38 PM
Last year my family started to go to a new church. I was cool with it because I had a close school friend that went there too. I was happy I already had a friend but I also wanted to make some new friends too! But there is a major click! Every Sunday they group together and ignore everyone else. The big shocker is they come from strong Christian families who are always serving the Lord. It puzzles me. It bothered me until i found my own group. But we are not a click! We welcome anyone in. Thank you for the good and helpful advice! I love being part of the Click of Christ! And anyone who has Jesus living inside of them can join!:)
Posted by Christian | February 1, 2011 9:07 PM