Do you know what the word infatuation means? It is defined as a short-lived, foolish, unreasoning or extravagant attraction to someone or something. A crush is the same thing! Crushes are normally something that develops after only a short time of knowing a person. During this time, you probably get butterflies in your stomach every time you are around your crush, daydream and draw tiny hearts all over your schoolwork, and wonder does he like me, too? These are normal feelings at any age, and are experienced many times over.
So then, what makes the difference between the feelings of a crush and the feelings of being in-love? Have you ever looked at what love is from a Biblical standpoint? 1 Corinthians 13 defines love clearly:
Love is patient; love is kind. Love does not envy; is not boastful; is not conceited; does not act improperly; is not selfish; is not provoked; does not keep a record of wrongs; finds no joy in unrighteousness, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.
Love, therefore, encompasses a whole world of feelings and actions. Whereas a crush is passive: love is active. Love is also something that develops gradually, over time. Yes, there are stories of people who meet and experience love-at-first-sight, get married and live happily ever after, but the majority of lasting relationships take time to grow.
Somewhere in the middle of just a crush and love is being in-love. Being in-love is the process of loving the other person and it will either turn into genuine love (see 1 Corinthians 13), or fade into friendship.
It is important not to rush things in a relationship. Let me ask you this: Have you gotten to be friends with the boy you like? Do you not only know his interests and passions, but also share yours with him? Friendship is a great basis for a deeper relationship. Be smart enough to know that a true love relationship is based on far more than just looks and crush-like interest. It’s grounded in faithfulness and a commitment to love/serve/honor the other person even when feelings fade or the giddiness disappears. Crushes manifest in feelings. Love manifests in action.