What a difficult situation to be in! The promising "brighter side" of the story is that you have realized that you want and need Christian friends, and you can be sure that God wants to bless you with Christian friendships that make you happy, while bringing honor to Him at the same time.
The Bible is full of assurance that the Lord loves and supports Christian friendship. Friendship offers encouragement, accountability, and the joy of fellowship! Proverbs says, "As iron sharpens iron, so does one man sharpens another." Surely it is the Lord's will to give you friends that stick closer than a brother (Proverbs 18:24).
1 John 5:14-15 says, "This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to His will He hears us. And if we know that He hears us- whatever we ask- we know that we have what we asked of Him." Matthew 7:7-12 also talks about asking, seeking, and knocking!
"Every good and perfect gift is from above (James 1:17)." These precious friendships are gifts from Him! Keep in mind that He wants you to have the joy of experiencing them; and more importantly, He wants you to realize that HE is the source from which they come! Therefore, you can ask HIM to bless you and be confident that He will do it! He chooses to bless us and give us friends "not because we are righteous, but because of [His] great mercy (Daniel 9:18)."
In the meantime, ask the Lord to give you wisdom (James 1:5) as to where and how to "find" these friends! Join or start a Bible study, go to youth group on the weekdays! Go to places where these people hang out, even if it is uncomfortable at first! Remember also to "love your neighbor as yourself." The best way to make a friend is to first be a friend, and there are definitely young, beautiful, believing girls out there who are feeling the same need as you!
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Just be yourself and do not let them tell you what to do if it is bad. God will use you in such a way if that is your desire and if you ask Him to give you an opportunity. It says in the Bible to be different and not part of the world. Also, just pray for your friends who aren't as strong. I can relate cause I'm stronger in my relationship than my other friends and I just share God as much as possible. I'm not afraid to share my faith. You can be the leader and not the follower. But first, you gotta let God lead your life before you can be a leader for your friends. Tell them more about God. Maybe the reason why they aren't as strong is cause they probably don't hear bout God or they just think it's a waste of time and don't care much about Him. all you can do is be an example of Christ and pray for them.
Posted by Lauren | June 17, 2007 5:01 PM
i know how you feel. one of my friends doesn't ask jesus do do something with her life.
My other friend thinks she's too cool for anybody.
Posted by jesse | November 25, 2007 12:35 PM
I have alot of strong christian friends(includind me)but we can all be pretty mean sometimes if some one ticks you off.You see one time when I was in the second grade there was this boy and he said he did not go to church sooo...I ended up telling my mom.We went to church and everythind then at church I told my Sunday school teacher that that boy said he did not go to church and they told me to invite him to our church.I went to school like...I think monday but o well any way I was at school and I asked him(it was hard.)hand he said that he would but our parents never got together.So what I am saying here is that you should invite them to your church and if they already go to a church or your church...then maybe you should tell them why you love him and why you want to do everything he says and just well, you know what I mean.
Posted by Christine | May 12, 2008 4:09 PM