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I feel like I say the same thing over and over to you guys but it's important so I'm going to say it again and hope you don't have to learn this the hard way like I did. In Isaiah 43:7 God tells us that all who are called by His Name (who belong to Him) have been created for His glory...not for each other. We've bought into this Hollywood idea that there's someone out there who was created just for us, that we were made for each other, but it's not true biblically and when we believe it we put all our hopes and dreams on finding that one person. Then before you know it your heart belongs to the dream of someone instead of to the One who loves you so much He died for you. But there's a lot of room for disappointment and heartache in that belief. Like what if you search and search but never find that person? Or what if you marry someone you thought was "the one" but then he turns out to be a mess or a jerk or just an ordinary guy who doesn't live up to your expectations? As a good friend of mine recently said "God never intended for our happiness to depend on someone so fickle as another person".

God might have marriage in your future, and if so He already knows who you'll marry, but He never meant for you to look to a person to make you whole, only Jesus can do that. So when you say you're wanting to know if you've found "the one" I want to know what you mean by that. Do you mean the one who will "complete you" (nobody out there can do that) or do you mean the one you think you might want to marry someday? If you've met someone you think is special and that you might end up married to them there are a few things you can do to help you walk through the relationship in a healthy way.

First remember that your heart is "deceitful above all things and beyond cure" (Jeremiah 17:9) so you can't trust your feelings to navigate this but you can trust God to guide you in the path He has for you. That means you're going to have to pursue Him more than you pursue your relationship with this guy. Over and over in the Bible God tells us to seek Him and live, to pursue Him above all things, to love Him most and let Him take care of the rest. It also says that He is jealous for our affections because He's more deserving of our hearts than anyone or anything else. He's the true love we're all so desperately looking for and He's the only one who has our best interest at heart. He's also the only one who knows your future so if you're wanting to know if this guy is worth getting to know better or spending time with, only God can walk you through that. Talk to Him everyday about everything. Jesus is the one person it's safe to be completely open and honest with so go for it. Open up to Him about this guy and your hopes and dreams and ask Him to open your eyes and ears so you can see and hear Him louder than the world around you and your own heart. Read your Bible in order to learn more about this incredible God who adores you instead of reading it because it's on your list of "Christian" things to do. Pursue Jesus like your heart tells you to pursue this guy and see where He takes you.

Second, get someone involved who knows you and loves you and will be honest with you about this guy and the relationship. If you have a friend who loves Jesus and can speak biblical truth to you, they can help you keep your head on straight when your emotions and/or hormones want to take over. That's what we're here for - the church is supposed to be one big family that looks out for each other as we help each other stay faithful to Jesus and follow Him.

Above all things remember what God says in Amos 5:4 - "Seek Me and LIVE!!" Nobody else can make that promise and follow through on it.