By: Michele Armstrong
I don’t know about you, but I’ve always had a running list of qualities I look for in a guy before dating them. I’ve never used them as “rules” or “criteria” for any of my dates, rather a guideline for what I find attractive. For starters, he has to love Jesus and display Godly character and leadership. Knowing (if possible) how he treats his mom is a good indication of how he will ultimately treat you. And of course, integrity goes a long way!
Somewhere along the way though, we got in our heads that “Prince Charming” was waiting for us. But, what makes him so charming? Or worth the wait - for that matter?
The other day I came across Venus razors’ new advertising ploy: The Manquarium. Yep. Just like it sounds! In campaigning their newest razor, Venus Breeze (the first 2-in-1 razor with built-in shave gel bars making shaving easier and more convenient - according to the world’s leading female shaving brand), the Manquairum is a site where you can actually build your perfect guy, in a breeze of course! After fishing through a few bod profiles (five to be exact), answering questions like “Your guys plans an amazing date, where does he take you? “ and “You’re having a bad day, and your guy comes over to cheer you up. How does he do it?,” your ideal guy awaits you where you can actually visit him everyday if you so choose!
In the Manquarium, you can watch your guy doggy paddle and spout cheesy pick-up lines like “goddess, you are a feast for the senses,” “you make my heart swim” and “I know guys are supposed to be into cars and stuff, but I’m just into you.” This underwater-cyberspace world claims that having the perfect looking guy with the perfect-for-you personality will ultimately “reveal the goddess in you.” This definitely gives a whole new meaning to all those clichés about finding your fish in the sea!
While the site is quite humorous, it got me thinking. When it comes to finding Prince Charming, are we simply looking for an earth-shattering, can’t catch your breath moment of attraction? Or do we truly desire a guy whose heart is seeking after the Lord? Do we truly believe that Christ is the only One who can complete us or do we believe what the media says about the importance of finding the perfect-looking guy?
Tell us, what do you think? What are your top five qualities for a datable guy?
Comments (10)
He has to have a personal relationship with Jesus.
He has to serve others as Jesus tell us that is so important.
He has to be kind.
He has to generous.
He has to be selfless.
Posted by marianne | August 13, 2007 1:05 PM
First of all I want him to have a burning passion for the Lord. I don't mean to be a luke warm Christian, but a man who is totally on fire for the Lord! Next, I would like for Him to be funny! Also, I would like him to have very high purity standards! Since my purity standard is that I will not kiss a boy until my wedding day I pray that he is keeping similiar or the same goals! Also, Good looking (of course!)! Have the same desire as I do to go into youth ministry!
Posted by Jen | August 13, 2007 6:56 PM
I think that the media really imposes that you are supposed to have a perfect looking guy... but of course they would!! Then if you notice they go into how their product can make you "perfect" so you can get the "perfect" guy! Don't buy into it girls... instead, pray daily for wisdom from God to show you "perfect" and true perfection. I can gurantee you that he will show you how his Son, Jesus, lived a perfect life... just some food for thought!! Now onto the top 5 qualities I want in a guy...
1. Preferably believes in God... if not must be able to listen so I can share my faith!!
2.MUST be compassionate
3.A good listener
4.Someone who believes in me.
5. Someone who is fun to be around and can make me laugh!
Just to let you know... DONT SETTLE. There are guys that meet your standards if your standards are reasonable. Dont expect perfection... thats unfair. Expect good treatment and nothing less. I know i sound all wise and all, but i'm only 15. It is just I have been dating since I was in the 4th grade and have mostly guy friends. I know all sorts of different guys...and I'm with a wonderful one. Find out what you want... and dont be afraid to tell him!! Much Love to Yall!!
Posted by Kaylee | August 13, 2007 7:47 PM
I think this is so true the guys who truly love god won't have model perfect looks most of the time. They are humble, not flashy. They catch your eye because of their actions and they actually look for girls who are mysterious and not flirty! Girls, let your list be based on the inside, not the outside!
Posted by April | August 13, 2007 8:02 PM
My top five qualities for a datable guy are:
1. He has to have a heart for God.
2. He has to treat me like God's princess but respect the fact that I can take care of myself.
3. He can't be embarrased easily because I'm very outspoken and will talk about periods wether or not guys are present.
4. He has to keep his hands to himself and be respectful to adults.
5. He has to beat my youth pastor (who is a former correctional officer) in a grappling match.
Posted by Emily | August 13, 2007 9:09 PM
1.GODLY (loves God and spends quality time with Him)
2.Treats his friends, family and especially girls respectfully
3.Can laugh
4.Initiates the relationship
5.Gives godly advice when needed
Posted by Maria | August 14, 2007 3:19 AM
well, this certainly gets you thinking, doesn't it?
hmmm...
1. he would have to be totally crazy about Jesus. i would want him to try to live out his life the way God wants him to, and i would want him to offer (good!) Godly advice when i need it.
2. he'd have to have his priorities straight! as much as i'd want to be his first, i think God should definately come first, then me, good friends, and family all together as the second.
3. he would have to be understanding. i have three little brothers that i'm ALWAYS babysitting, so he'd have to be okay with my weird, busy schedule.
4. he'd have to be caring. i'd want him to remember my birthday, to treat my friends like he treats his, and to want to listen to me about my bad (or great!) day.
5. he'd have to be funny! i like guys who have a sense of humor, but he wouldn't like (or make up!) nasty jokes.
Posted by Mae | August 21, 2007 5:19 PM
1. he'd be insane for Jesus, and he'd give Godly advice when i needed it most, but he wouldn't be pushy or judgmental about it.
2. he'd treat me and everyone else with respect and compassion.
3. he wouldn't ever ask me to change, and he'd tell me i'm beautiful just the way i am.
4. he wouldn't ever be embaressed by me or us dating, or my friends or family.
5. he'd be okay with my busy schedule, and he'd be understanding about my parent's rules.
Posted by Mayce | August 21, 2007 5:32 PM
1. he has to have a buring passion for the Lord!
2. he has to be understanding, because i'm almost always busy (babysitting), so he'd have to be okay with me having to last-minute cancel if there was an emergancy.
3. he'd have to be funny! he'd have to make me laugh or smile when i was feeling low.
4. he'd have to be a good listener. i talk a lot, and it would be awesome to have a guy who asked you "how was your day?" and then have him actually listen.
5. he'd have to be respectful! i wouldn't want him to move too fast, and i would want him to treat me and every around us with respect and forgivness.
Posted by Mae | August 22, 2007 7:43 AM
1. He has to believe in god.
2. He better not be in the relationship just for sex.
3. He has to be respectful and treat others like he would treat himself.
4. He better not cus it very unattractive.
5. He must follow the word of the bible.
Posted by Bekah | August 25, 2007 8:38 PM