Virtuous Reality Blog

By: Michele Armstrong

I don’t know about you, but I’ve always had a running list of qualities I look for in a guy before dating them. I’ve never used them as “rules” or “criteria” for any of my dates, rather a guideline for what I find attractive. For starters, he has to love Jesus and display Godly character and leadership. Knowing (if possible) how he treats his mom is a good indication of how he will ultimately treat you. And of course, integrity goes a long way!

Somewhere along the way though, we got in our heads that “Prince Charming” was waiting for us. But, what makes him so charming? Or worth the wait - for that matter?

The other day I came across Venus razors’ new advertising ploy: The Manquarium. Yep. Just like it sounds! In campaigning their newest razor, Venus Breeze (the first 2-in-1 razor with built-in shave gel bars making shaving easier and more convenient - according to the world’s leading female shaving brand), the Manquairum is a site where you can actually build your perfect guy, in a breeze of course! After fishing through a few bod profiles (five to be exact), answering questions like “Your guys plans an amazing date, where does he take you? “ and “You’re having a bad day, and your guy comes over to cheer you up. How does he do it?,” your ideal guy awaits you where you can actually visit him everyday if you so choose!

In the Manquarium, you can watch your guy doggy paddle and spout cheesy pick-up lines like “goddess, you are a feast for the senses,” “you make my heart swim” and “I know guys are supposed to be into cars and stuff, but I’m just into you.” This underwater-cyberspace world claims that having the perfect looking guy with the perfect-for-you personality will ultimately “reveal the goddess in you.” This definitely gives a whole new meaning to all those clichés about finding your fish in the sea!

While the site is quite humorous, it got me thinking. When it comes to finding Prince Charming, are we simply looking for an earth-shattering, can’t catch your breath moment of attraction? Or do we truly desire a guy whose heart is seeking after the Lord? Do we truly believe that Christ is the only One who can complete us or do we believe what the media says about the importance of finding the perfect-looking guy?

Tell us, what do you think? What are your top five qualities for a datable guy?

In recent news, Nicole spent 82 minutes in jail for a DUI due to overcrowding regulations, while Lohan plead guilty making the following statement:

"It is clear to me that my life has become completely unmanageable because I am addicted to alcohol and drug[s].

Recently, I relapsed and did things for which I am ashamed. I broke the law, and today I took responsibility by pleading guilty to the charges in my case. No matter what I said when I was under the influence on the day I was arrested, I am not blaming anyone else for my conduct other than myself. I thank God I did not injure others. I easily could have.

I very much want to be healthy and gain control of my life and career and have asked for medical help in doing so. I am taking these steps to improve my life. Luckily, I am not alone in my daily struggle and I know that people like me have succeeded. Maybe with time it will become easier. I hope so.”

Why are we all so fascinated by the likes of Lohan, Brittney, Paris and Nicole? We would all agree that these ladies are not good role-models by any stretch, but we find ourselves drawn to the endless headlines featuring their ever-so not normal lifestyles of fame and fortune! Is this a new Hollywood fad for the sake of positive press attention; or have these ladies come to the realization that they must take responsibility for their actions?

In the end, they will be accountable to God for their actions (as will we), but I can’t help but wonder what impact their choices have made on today’s youth. Have they glamorized the jail scene and made rehab look like a posh vacation? Or has their behavior turned us off from the lifestyle they live?

As the headlines continue to update us on the lives of Lohan and Nicole, I recognize that their sphere of influence is still at work. But would we even call them role models?

So then, when it comes to role models in our lives, what exactly are we looking for? Tell us, who is your mentor and why? What are top three qualities you look for in a role model?

Also, chceck our article of the week on Mentors!