Are you the girl in youth group who flirts at every chance she gets? Do you find yourself drooling over the new boy at school? Or even finds yourself scheming about your next crush victim or rather ‘flavor of the week’? Yes, I am talking to you. Yeah you, the girl with her hand on the mouse! Don’t even think about clicking out of this article. You’d better read it because it’s just for you!
Crushing and flirting. Admit it - not only do we know what they are, but have all entertained them once or twice (or maybe more)! While a little crush from time to time is perfectly normal, it can become hazardous to your health and well-being if it progresses. Ultimately, our heart and motive behind our thoughts need to be kept in check.
Crushes usually develop as a result of a great first impression (meaning the first time you meet someone) and an instant connection or attraction is sparked. Most of the time your palms get sweaty, your heart beats a little faster and your words somehow get caught up in your throat. But a crush has more to do with lust and infatuation and less with true love. And for most of the time, crushes often arise when the chance for a relationship is very slim.
This begs the questions, what are we so focused on anyway? In the grand scheme of life, crushes definitely don’t make the top ten. You don’t see many people on their deathbeds thinking about their crush…I know that’s extreme, but really…think about it. In your last days, are you going to think about your sixth grade crush? NO! Your thoughts will probably be about where you are about to go…the afterlife…heaven or hell???!!! My point is that the really important things in life don’t revolve around Chris, Trey, Mike, Stephen, Trevor, Kurt, Nate or even Shane.
If we, as virtuous girls, spent as much time with God as we do flirting and crushing, then we would be so in touch with the Father that our lives would overflow with His glory. I am a girl who has been through middle school and high school and has had over 52 crushes (just a guess - could be more, could be less). Believe me, once I graduated from the school of boy craziness I realized that there is so much more to life.
I know I can ramble on and on about how there is so much more to life than guys; you might even agree, even though it’s hard to. Magazines and T.V. don’t help us get over our crushes, and there’s nothing wrong with a crush here and there. But why does it have to consume our lives? Can’t we live lives devoted to thinking about God?
So who has your attention? Your crush or your Savior?
“Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” [Philippians 4:8]
Comments (8)
That's true. I don't have any problems with flirting, but that's a good article for those who do. The facts stated in this article are also part of the reason I have chosen not to date.
Posted by Arielle | January 14, 2008 7:17 PM
that gurl u are talking about in the article was exzctly who I was. Then i realized that God is so much more important than some guy i like. I feel free now, and i check my heart to make sure if i like a guy i don't get too consumed like I used to.
Posted by april | January 15, 2008 7:37 AM
that's a good word!! especially the part about spending more time with our Father than crushing on hotties. Jesus isn't just here one day and gone the next like crushes...he's always with us, never changing. I love when i have my quiet times and i just fall more in love with my heavenly father every day.
Posted by elizabeth | January 16, 2008 6:20 PM
i havent had 1 boy freind and my freinds are all around me talking about who is going to take who to the dance or watev. im jelly but now i understand!
Posted by banana | January 17, 2008 4:21 PM
I agree 100%!!! Crushes may be fun sometimes but they're definitely not the coolest things. Besides I've managed fine without going out with somebody and I definitely don't see the point when you're in school. It's like you get them and then what? You just end up dumping them or getting dumped.
Posted by janet | January 18, 2008 11:04 PM
this is sooooo true! I realize(a lot of times)that i focus on the cute guy who sits in front of me in math class more than i focus on God. This really opens my eyes on how i should think on my #1 guy(Jesus) more than da guy in front of me in class!!:)
Posted by kierria | February 2, 2008 4:11 PM
All this says is SO true about girls today....do we really think about the Lord more then we do our crushes in school?.....I've never really had problems with being overly flirty, but i know SO many girls that do. Having a older brother has helped me out a lot with being able to interact with guys, but not having a crush on them. I look at a lot of guys as just a friend. This is why i have chosen not to date...because think about it...when you have a crush, its like the whole world revolves around that guy until you get over him. In the past when i have had a crush, when he would walk into the room, it was like time stood still and nothing else mattered to me.....maybe i just fall hard for guys or something, but thats how it used to be for me. Well anyways....for girls out there who don't date...your not alone. its hard to live in a world where dating is SO normal. Whats so normal about getting your heart broken all the time? Cause its going to happen until you get married. Well God bless, Love and Joy-Victoria
Posted by Victoria | February 27, 2008 1:53 PM
hey!!!
that girl in the article was definelty me last year! i've really worked on not flirting this year and its working!!
Posted by a | April 8, 2008 3:47 PM